This morning DaddyZabba took BigZabba to school, hoping that removing “Mommy” from the situation would help ease the separation..no. This only caused the drama to begin earlier, at the front door saying good bye to Mommy rather than in front of the classroom saying good bye to Mommy.
I am left feeling like the bad guy. My child is screaming, “I want Mommy! I don’t want to go to school. I want Mommy. Mommy!” and I walk away. How awful. If I were to give in I could make all this stress go away. She would be happy, I wouldn’t have to deal with this drama daily, life would be less stressful. But, then she would “win”. If I allow this to continue, how long do I allow it to continue? It is spilling over into other areas of our life that used to be stress free. Going to church is now a huge issue, playtime at MOPS is now a problem, and I question every outing wondering if this will be something that will set her off. If pre-school is causing this much commotion, is it really worth it? It is only pre-school, and getting through this drama now is no guarantee that kindergarten will be any better.
So Moms, I need your vote. Pull her out or push through the pain?
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Ooohhhh, yuck. That’s so hard. =( I’m not gonna vote because I have zero experience in this area – just wanted to say I really feel for you. It sounds so hard. =(
Goodness, I don’t know. Does she stop crying once you leave? Is there any other transition going on that could be influencing her? Is she only going a few days, a few hours?
You have to cope with her before and after preschool, so you have to decide if it is worth it . . .
Z cried EVERY Sunday we dropped him off in the nursury till he was 2 years old. It was miserable. But after 10 minutes, he calmed down. I mostly had to adjust my own expectations of one of those warm, fuzzy goodbyes. It was sad and embarrassing and I always felt like I was scarring him.
But I certainly don’t think BigZabba will be ‘behind’ in anyway if she doesn’t go to preschool at 3, especially if she has the church nursury, mops, etc., and is getting other play group experience.
Can you volunteer in her classroom next week for the class? Maybe if you were in the classroom?
I am also going to say (not that this is happening to her) but sometimes kids have bad vibes about teachers or childcare workers. There is a nursury worker that both of my kids do NOT like, and I don’t know why, except that now that Z is 3, he tells me she ‘scares him.’ (she’s old and a little crabby). Also, whenever we went to the gym and this one childcare worker was working, they had a horrible day. I was lucky to get through my cardio before they pulled me out to get them. Just throwing it out there.